My mother said to me when I told her I was getting divorced, "Oh, I hope you can meet someone nice." My mother has never been the most supportive in stressful situations. She reacts more with "Oh god now what?" rather than, "oh dear I am so sorry for you. What can I do to help?" I have an imaginary mother in my head and she is very supportive. When kids are little they have imaginary friends, I have an imaginary mother. I talk to my imaginary mother too and she responds!
My imaginary mother brings over dinner when I have to work late. She makes the kids their favorites and always has something for me too. My real-life mother brought over a chicken I had to cook after I had my first child. Since then, nothing. My imaginary mother picks up the kids and drives them everywhere! My real-life mother doesn't. My imaginary mother has us all over for dinner on Sunday. You guessed it...only go over to real-life mothers' on holidays. In fact, we never go over there but for a holiday. My real-life mother lives 6 minutes away in heavy traffic. My imaginery mother comes over a lot to help me with cooking, cleaning and just visiting now that I am a single parent. The real-lifer hasn't seen grandkids since December. No she doesn't work full time, no she doesn't play bridge...she doesn't do anything except take care of my Dad. My beloved Dad has alzheimers and is in a nursing home so really who takes care of Dad.
You can sense I am a little bitter about my real-life mother. She has taught me a very important lesson however, and that is to be more like my imaginery mother than her! Cheers to my imaginery mother!
I too have a mother like that. She has not asked me to have a meal at her home in probably 10 years. She has NEVER asked to have the children over to her home to play, to give me a break. She has NEVER brought over a meal for us when I have been sick, has never offered to drive the children when they were little, and on Mother's Day 3 days ago, I asked her over for dinner. When my daughter phoned at 5:45pm and said she was ready to be picked up from her school activity, my mother said she would rather sit in my house, alone, and watch the tv news, rather than come with me to drive to pick up my daughter. Hmmm. An imaginary mother sounds good! Can I use yours?
ReplyDeleteYou can borrow Sug -- bet she'd cook for you and Dadzie would even throw in a bottle of vino!!!
ReplyDeleteMolly, my imaginery mother loves all my friends! And I will take sug and vic in a second!
ReplyDeletei was going to offer bete. her gradkids, though very attentive, are in college and have jobs and don't come over every day after school like they used to. she misses that. and she brings them shopping! so let me know! between bete & sug you'll be set.
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